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November 3rd, 2009

On October 24th, a teenage girl was gang raped and beaten on the campus of Richmond High School (an town on the east side of the San Francisco Bay). According to published reports, the attack took place over the course of two and a half hours and bystanders did nothing to stop it or help the girl. There’s a great deal of anger, outrage and discussion of “what the heck is wrong with people” going on in Northern California right now.

Many are blaming video games, depressed economics, lack of parent participation at the dance and the school itself for this event. Most people are asking how this could happen, and I think I have an answer to that question. It started with a bad decision…

Let me say, that under no circumstances is what happened to this girl acceptable. NOT ACCEPTABLE!

But it was preventable…

According to reports, the girl left the dance and was walking to meet her father for a ride home when a classmate invited her to join a group drinking in the courtyard. The victim had consumed a large amount of alcohol by the time the assault began, police said.

One bad decision (not being where she was supposed to be), compounded by another (consuming alcohol), multiplied by the number of drinks consumed, led this girl to lose control of her circumstances. And with that loss of control came the opportunity for someone to harm her, and they did.

This loss of control happens in high schools and colleges all over our country. It happens to girls and to boys and although the physical crime of rape is less likely to happen to a boy, the consumption of alcohol has on countless occasions made boys do things they never would have considered sober.

I taught high school for two years right after college… a time when it was fresh in my mind what could happen to girls when they drank too much and passed out in a fraternity house after party hopping.  It was a lesson I tried to share with the girls in my classes… It’s a lesson I was reminded of again and again over the last two weeks. It’s a lesson I will be reminding my high school aged niece of again when I see her at Thanksgiving.

My thoughts are with the victim, her family and her friends… My hope is that we will all learn something and in turn teach something valuable to the youngsters in our lives as a result.


The Health Care Debate

September 3rd, 2009

This morning on Facebook a grassroots effort to engage our social circles in the discussion of health care reform was going viral through status updates that read

“…thinks that no one should die because they cannot afford health care, and no one should go broke because they get sick. If you agree, please post this as your status for the rest of the day. Or until something interesting happens.

I saw it in the status of a family friend and, since this is one of my personal passions, posted it as my own. On both my friend’s “feed” and my own there was some immediate response, which included “Agreed. But what’s the solution?”

I was raised in a family of progressives and much to their continuous dismay, turned out to be a centrist on most things. I’m not wishy-washy. I truly believe that good ideas are out there on ALL issues and that most people believe deeply in their. I’m all about RESPECTFUL DISCUSSION. To me, that means really listening to the thoughts and concerns of others and trying to understand their point of view – without talking over them.

I’m not an economist or a health care expert. I’m the owner of a (very) small business, a wife and mother, a daughter, granddaughter and aunt. I do bring to this discussion the experience of having worked in the managed care industry for about 6 years in the 1990s – first at a large Health Maintenance Organization (HMO) in California and then in administration at a small consulting firm that focused primarily on helping specialists understand managed care and how to transition their practices to work within the system. I worked with incredibly smart people who understood managed care and its impacts on doctors, employers and patients. One of my jobs was the “English to English” translation of managed care speak so that anyone could make sense of what was being said.

Here are a few things I’ve grown to believe through these experiences:
1) Managed Care is a good thing. I believe in clinical protocols and preventive care.

2) “Every one is a focus group of one” I don’t know if my managed care mentor, BCS, was the first to coin the phrase, but it’s so true. Translation: your experience with health care is the most critical factor in your view of the system

3) Many health insurance plans have lost their souls in the quest to be publicly traded companies.

4) Everyone wants to see something change, but the fear of the unknown is paralyzing.

I’m the first to admit that my “focus group” looks at the offerings of my husband’s employer first to make sure that my son’s pediatrician is one of the providers. We have insurance but our current coverage is pretty expensive ($800 per month for our family). Even with coverage, my son’s recent bought with pink eye was nearly $100 out of pocket between co-pay and prescription.

I believe in capitalism. I think having an idea, marketing it and letting the consumer purchase a product is awesome, and it’s perfectly fine to make a profit. What I don’t believe in is greed. And if we’re all honest with ourselves for a moment, we’ll admit that there is an element of greed underlying this discussion. Some of the greed is monetary. Health insurers have increasingly become publicly traded entities with a need to cut expenses to increase profits and shareholder dividends. Executives are under extreme pressure to keep those profits growing and the only ways to do that are raise income (rates) and decrease expenses (deny benefits).

Some greed is emotional. We all want to live the fullest lives possible. We all want Gramma to live forever, even when that means demanding life extending treatments for the aged or terminal that we would scoff at as ridiculous if we heard about them in the news. More isn’t always better. Sometimes it’s just more.

FEAR is a huge part of this discussion. I don’t know an adult that doesn’t fear losing their job and benefits. There’s also the fear of “what will happen to my coverage” in order to get those without insurance coverage. We’re afraid some paper pusher somewhere (and it doesn’t have to be a government bureaucrat, it happens in the private sector, too) will deny us, or a family member, a referral to a specialist or won’t cover a prescription or treatment plan.

Is there a solution? Where and how does it get implemented? How do we cover everyone without it becoming a huge government program? How do we make it affordable, quality coverage? I don’t have the answers, but maybe through a RESPECTFUL EXCHANGE OF IDEAS we can come to a better understanding of the needs and fears we all have when this topic comes up.

What do you think? Please share your thoughts, ideas and then share this post with others to see if we can collectively come up with some ideas to take to the discussion of health care reform.


On the Shelf – Ayelet Waldman’s “Love and Other Impossible Pursuits”

July 31st, 2009

Love and Other Impossible Pursuits Love and Other Impossible Pursuits by Ayelet Waldman


My rating: 5 of 5 stars
This isn’t a book I would have usually picked up for myself, but needed something to take on a trip that wasn’t a library book (I have a strict rule on traveling with books that aren’t mine) and it was a well passed around book.

Fiction about “women of a certain age” seems to always include divorce, adultery, and even more angst than the average high school cafeteria. Ms. Waldman has created a set of characters that are identifiable and I believe each reader will find one character to latch onto and cheer for throughout.

I won’t kid you, this is not a light beach read, but I will say that it is worth every minute it takes to get to the last page. EVERY MINUTE.

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On the Shelf – Naomi Hirahara’s “Summer of the Big Bachi”

July 12th, 2009

Summer of the Big Bachi Summer of the Big Bachi by Naomi Hirahara


My review

Okay, so this isn’t about bocci the game but rather the Japanese concept of Bachi – something akin to kharma. I think this (mis)understanding would change the entire reading experience. But then, I’m all about expectation management.

This wasn’t quite what I expected. Kind of like my (fairly regular) misadventures in the kitchen, I came to this book thinking it was far lighter than it turned out to be. Because I grew up in the area, it had many nice references to places I knew well, but I found the Japanese terms casually thrown into the text to be distracting.

My library classified it as a mystery, so I’ve tagged it that way here as well, but I think the term is a bit misapplied. It’s less of a whodunnit than a “what’s the motive” kind of book.

I’m really careful not to include spoilers, so I’ll leave it at this – not a light read but a good first novel (although it’s not Hirahara’s first published book by any means). I have the next of her novels on my bedside table to read, but I feel like I need a bit of a break before tackling it.

rating: 3 of 5 stars

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On the Shelf – Introducing the Classics

July 10th, 2009

On the shelf posts feature my thoughts on books and nurturing a love of reading in my son.

In a random conversation the other day, I mentioned to a former teacher that we were introducing our son to some of the classics of literature. There was a moment of silent shock at which point I added, “I don’t mean War and Peace, I mean The Three Bears and Henny Penny.”

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I’m a voracious reader, and always have been. Currently, I’m on track to read about 50 books in 2009. Are they all “great LITERATURE“? Nope, but they are enjoyable romps through various lives and times and situations – some that make me cringe and some that make me laugh outloud and read far too late into the night.

It is with that nearly insatiable love for the written word that I’ve spent the last 4 years reading to my son. We’ve bopped our way through Boynton Board Books (Barnyard Dance remains a favorite); we’ve quacked our way through Doreen Cronin’s Click Clack Moo and all of the adventures with Farmer Brown, Duck and their barnyard friends; given all manner of things to Mice, Pigs, Moose and Cats in the If You Give series, and have a deep affection for Wong Herbert Yee and the Small books. We visit the library regularly and check out all manner of books – we’re on quite a run of books from the science section on sea life currently.

At some point, the husband and I started to think about and discuss stories we enjoyed as children and began to include those in the rotation (anything to break up the seventeenth night run of Sabertooth!), which brought us to the point of asking if anyone read the “classics” anymore or had some of what we would consider classics been pushed out of the way by newer popular children’s lit. There began quiet whispers in the back of my head about literary allusion, cultural literacy and English idiom.

There are so many phrases and ideas that come out in (at least my family’s) every day conversation that come directly from classic tales… “The sky is falling”…   “Loosey Goosey”…   wising the elves would come and do (insert task here) while you sleep… these are just a few. I realize than tons of people (in fact even the vast majority of people perhaps) go through life without using these phrases or if they do, without the knowledge of where they come from. And somehow, that just seems sad to me. Life is so much richer with a little bit of context (chocolate syrup and whipped cream help too) and our links to the generations who came before us a little stronger when we share some of this common language.

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

What are some of your favorite phrases plucked from books (or even television and movies) from your youth? How are you keeping not only the phrase alive but the source for the next generation?
Do you have a book you think every child should read at least once?

Gramma’s Mayonnaise Cake

July 5th, 2009

All of my cooking adventures go into the <i>Not My Mother’s Kitchen</i> category, but this recipe actually comes from my maternal grandmother, quite possibly via a Knudsen cookbook. This quick and easy cake substitutes the typical egg and oil with a cup of mayonnaise.

Today's featured players

Today's featured players

sugar, flour, baking soda & baking powder

sugar, flour, baking soda & baking powder

add 5 TBSP of cocoa

add 5 TBSP of cocoa

Give all the dry ingredients a good whisk in the mixer!

Give all the dry ingredients a good whisk in the mixer!

The star... one cup Best Foods (aka Hellman's) Mayonnaise

The star... one cup Best Foods (aka Hellman's) Mayonnaise

add the mayo and one cup of water to the dry ingredients

add the mayo and one cup of water to the dry ingredients

Mix until smooth

Mix until smooth

pour into a greased 9x9 pan and bake at 350° for 30 minutes

pour into a greased 9x9 pan and bake at 350° for 30 minutes

Voila!

Voila!

This cake is incredibly moist and yet, not overly sweet.

I baked this pan for exactly 30 minutes and when I inserted a skewer in the center it came out clean. After resting a little while, the center collapsed some and there was a nice bit of chocolate squish in the center. You may prefer to bake the cake just a few minutes longer so it’s cakey throughout.

Gramma’s Mayonnaise Cake

1 cup sugar
1 tsp. soda
5 TBSP cocoa
1 cup Best Foods mayonnaise
2 cup flour
2 tsp baking powder
1 cup water

Mix all ingredients together and beat until smooth. Pour into a greased 9×9 pan. Bake at 350° for 30-35 minutes.


Today at a Glance

June 23rd, 2009

This little meme came to me via Cathy Zielske’s blog (via Ali Edwards’ blog, and so on and so on…) It’s a great snapshot of what’s going on in the here and now.

Welcome to our Home!

TODAY
June 23st, 2009

Outside my window… It’s a beautiful day in our quiet neighborhood. Sun is shining, sky is blue and there’s a soft breeze.

I am thinking that while there’s work to be done, everything is under control at the moment.

I am thankful for the flexibility of working for myself and being home when my son is home. I’m also extremely thankful for year round preschool that allows my son to thrive while mommy works.

From the kitchen… toasting up some freshly baked bread and getting ready to boil chicken for tonight’s Chicken Divan casserole. And coffee… can’t underestimate the power of coffee

I am wearing… t-shirt and pants

I am creating… a handbound photo album/guest book for this weekend’s wedding, plus invitations for other events.

I am going… to run the Tuesday errands and make a quick client delivery.

I am reading… a reprint of a Janet Evanovich screwball romantic comedy and stalking the Fedex delivery of the newest Mary Kay Andrew’s novel The Fixer Upper

I am hoping… to convince the small one to take a swim today.

I am hearing… the sounds of a happy boy saving the Solar System through imaginative play.

Around the house… there’s laundry to be put away and dinner prep to be done.

One of my favorite things… having great vendors I can count on. I’d be sunk without them!

A few plans for the rest of the week… finish up all of the items for this week’s event, pick up the house, bake some cookies and get a pedicure!


Not My Mother’s Kitchen – Muffy’s Enchilada Casserole

June 21st, 2009

This is a classic example of a Not My Mother’s Kitchen recipe adventure. While ultimately it turned out fine, it’s the inadvertent swapping of featured meat that makes me roll my eyes at myself.

Muffy’s Enchilada Casserole

Adapted from No More than Five Ingredients – recipes from Home Economics (FACS) Teachers.

1 (10.75 oz) can Cream of Mushroom Soup

1 (15 oz) can Enchilada Sauce

2 cups cooked chicken breast, diced (or in my case about one pound of ground beef, browned)

1 cup cheddar cheese, grated (I think it’s more like 2 cups because we wanted more on top when we served it)

3-1/2 cups tortilla chips, crushed
Preheat oven to 375°.

Place all ingredients in a large bowl and mix well (I drained the meat after cooking and mixed it all into my Dutch Oven).

Bake for 25 minutes.

Serve with rice  or sour cream and salsa, if desired. We added more crunchy chips, cheese and sour cream, plus a green salad.

Ultimately quite tasty and made great leftovers for lunch! Enjoy!


Not My Mother’s Kitchen – Lemon Zucchini Muffins

May 17th, 2009

Not My Mother’s Kitchen posts feature my adventures and misadventures in the kitchen. The title comes from the simple fact that my mom is an AMAZING cook while my cooking most days falls into the good but not spectacular category. There are days when I think my creativity ends with paper, but sometimes I surprise even myself!

We’re off to brunch with friends this morning and I offered to bring along some zucchini bread to add to the feast. My son is a muffin lover and any opportunity to get an extra veggie in his day works for me.

After looking through several cookbooks, the web, and the fridge to assess the state of things, I settled on adapting the Zucchini Orange Bread recipe found in my Pillsbury Encyclopedia of Baking. It’s on the same page as what must be my default Banana Bread recipe because the page has now come loose from the binding of the book.

A great food blogger would have taken a photo of the cast of culinary characters for you. Let’s face it, I’m a complete amateur in food blogging at this point, and I was more focused on letting said muffin lover assist with the zesting and juicing of lemons, so I didn’t catch that initial shot. Next time I promise I’ll give the ingredients their proper introduction.

The recipe will make 2 loaves or in my case 24 standard sized muffins.

You’ll need:
4 eggs
1-1/2 cups sugar
3/4 cup oil
2/3 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice (in this case it was 3 lemons)
2 cups shredded, unpeeled zucchini (I used the fine shred blade on my Cuisinart)
3-1/4 cups all purpose flour
1-1/2 teaspoons baking powder
1-1/2 teaspoons baking soda
1 teaspoon salt
2-1/2 teaspoons cinnamon
zest of 3 lemons

Heat the oven to 350°.

In a large bowl (I put it in the bowl of my Kitchenaid stand mixer), beat eggs until thick and lemon colored; gradually beat in sugar. Stir in oil, lemon juice and zucchini. Stir in remaining ingredients; mix well.

At this point I pulled out two standard sized (12 wells per pan) and dropped in these dreams of muffin papers.

world's greatest muffin cups

My parents turned me on to them. I get them via web order from Green Feet. Best $2.50 I spend to reduce hubby’s dishwashing load.

I used a 1/3 cup measuring cup to fill each cup and popped the trays in the oven for 15 minutes. At this point I flipped their position in the oven and baked them an additional 10 minutes. At the end of the 10 minutes I popped a skewer in a muffin in each pan that came out cleanly and pulled them out.

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They are flat topped. Someday I’ll figure out the secret for muffins with a fluffy round top.

come and eat me...

While they have a great flavor and are super super moist, I don’t find them to be overly lemony. I’ll have to do further experiments to see how to increase the lemon quotient in the finished product.

This recipe will also make 2 loaves of bread. According to the instructions, grease and flour the bottom of a loaf pan only and bake for 45 to 55 minutes until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out cleanly. You can also swap my 2/3 cup lemon juice for the original 2/3 cup orange juice and glaze the cool muffins or loaves with 1 cup powdered sugar and 2 to 3 teaspoons of lemon or orange juice.


Something’s changed… What’s that about?

May 11th, 2009

Occasionally, I find I have something interesting to say and need a place to say it. This is that place.

It started as a place to share information about the birth and growth of my son, but in transitioning to a new service provider I’ve decided to give the site a bit of an update. Soon, you’ll find an archive of those past posts (once I figure out how to load ‘em up) along with my new random musings on motherhood, wedded bliss, friendship, community service, creativity and my misadventures in the kitchen.

I hope you’ll visit often and maybe add a thought or two of your own.